Frequently Asked Questions

When you are going to a Mistress it is important to be well prepared. If you don’t know something it is a good thing to ask. You can probably imagine that there are a few questions that I get time in time again. To make things easy for myself, and for you too, I have collected the most frequently asked questions here. Is your question not listed here? Then you can always contact me.

What do I have to call You?

I want you to call me by my title and name, so you call me Mistress or Mistress Victoria. Of course you may also call me Mistress Victoria DeVil, but during a session this is a bit too long and formal. You definitely will not make me happy with calling me just Victoria or using informal greetings like 'hey' and 'yo'. In fact, it can pretty much annoy me. Is this difficult for you, please tell me so we can talk about it.

Do I have to make an appointment or can I just stop by?

Yes, you have to make an appointment in advance. I only work by appointment.

On which days are You available?

My days can vary. Look at my calendar to see my availability.

Do I have to bring a gift?

This is not required, of course, but it is courteous and something you make my day perfect with. On this page you can see how you can spoil me.

What do I have to do when I made an appointment but I suddenly can't make it?

Unexpected things happen sometimes, messing up your schedule, I understand that. However, let me know as soon as possible so I can take it into account and maybe make other appointments. Cancelling an appointment without reason or without notice makes me lose faith in an appointment with you. If you make another appointment then, I will ask for a deposit.

What do I have to do when I know I can't make it in time?

In my opinion, you didn't leave on time and you haven't planned the appointment properly. Of course it can occur that something unexpected happens which delays you. I expect you to inform me by phone as soon as possible and give me a new ETA. It could happen that our session is shortened due to other sessions.

I don't have the exact amount with me for the session. Can You change?

No. This is something you need to arrange prior to the session or be prepared to let me keep the change.

I prefer not to have any bruises or marks after a session, is that possible?

Yes, I can take this in consideration when you tell me.

What about my climax? Can I have an orgasm?

Maybe. This can be a possibility but it is absolutely not guaranteed. It is fully depends on how our session is going, your behavior during the session and simply if I want to.

May I use poppers or other substances?

No. The use of drugs and alcohol are prohibited. Poppers are also drugs and I will not tolerate it during a session. If I have the suspicion that you are under influence when you arrive at our appointment, I will send you away.

Can I bring my own clothing or attributes?

Yes you can. In Studio Donna Fiera there is a small selection of clothing and shoes, however, I can not guarantee that your size and taste are represented. You can bring your own BDSM attributes. I do have a lot, but of course I don't have everything. You can also contact me to ask if I happen to own that specific attribute. It also regularly happens that somebody wants to buy something to wear during a session, but can not take it home. In that case you can leave it with me. When I can't use it, the Studio probably will!

Do You use a Safe Word?

A Safe Word is used by you to indicate that you want me to stop what I am doing because it is getting too intense for you. My Safe Word is 'Red'. if you can't talk, I will provide you with something to hold in your hand. When you drop this, I know you used the Safe Word. You may use the Safe Word three times, but be careful, after the third time I terminate the session.

You may always use the word 'Mercy' to let me know things get quite heavy for you. It is then up to me whether I want to stop or continue for a bit. I feel no obligation to stop what I am doing. Excessive use of this word will make me ignore it or even punish it.

I have little to no experience with BDSM. Are you the right Mistress for me?

Yes I am. When you notify me of this I will keep it in mind. All my session are specifically adjusted to your level, your limits and your limitations. I will let you get acquainted with different aspects of BDSM and make sure a session is build up slowly. Of course I will respect your hard limits.

Am I gay when I love Anal Play?

No, of course not! Homosexual can have anal sex with each other, but this has nothing to do with gender or sexual orientation.During Anal Play, your prostate will be stimulated too. This is an intensely nice feeling. Besides that it has a strong psychological effect: the one who receives automatically feels more submissive. That is why it is very common in BDSM. This has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. You can also read my article about Anal Play and look at the Interest Anal Play.

Is it allowed to use substances during a session?

No. The use of drugs and alcohol are prohibited. Poppers are also drugs and I will not tolerate it during a session. If I have the suspicion that you are under influence when you arrive at our appointment, I will send you away.

Does it matter when I am (much) older / younger / bigger etc?

No. As long as you are 18 years old, the only tings that count are attitude, behavior and hygiene.

Do You play with couples? Can I take my (play)partner along?

Yes I do! I really like playing with couples. The person you bring with you can be either dominant or submissive. When this person is submissive and I am playing with you both I expect a double payment. When the (play)partner is also Dominant or only spectator, there are no extra payments required. The (play)partner can decide to play along or only watch the play.

Do You play with other Mistresses or female slaves?

Yes, I do! Be prepared for some Double Trouble! I have written a page with more information.

What languages to You speak?

I speak both Dutch and English fluently and I can give sessions in both languages.

Can I have sex with You? And if I pay more?

No and you have not read my website well enough if you are wondering this.

Do You smoke?

I quit smoking a long time ago. When requested I can smoke during a session or use a smoking device (no sigaret, so no nicotine).

Do You see this as only work or do You have fun in Your sessions?

I absolutely do not see this as only work. I do not assume the role of Dominant, this is who I am. In my private life I also am a Dominant and I am married to a slave with whom I have a 24/7 D/s relationship. BDSM is my life and my lifestyle and I am enjoying it intensely.

Can I run into other clients at the Studio?

Discretion and safety are very important to me. That is why you will never meet other clients and I will handle your information discretely.

How are You on hygiene?

Hygiene is very important. All instruments and devices will be cleaned and disinfected after a session. Personal hygiene is of high importance too. Not only mine, yours too. That is why I want you to take a shower in the Studio before a session. When you are into Anal Play, I appreciate it if you clean yourself anally too.

What happens when I arrive before the session and I am under the influence of alchohol or drugs?

If I have the suspicion that you are under influence when you arrive at our appointment, I will send you away. The use of drugs and alcohol are prohibited. Poppers are also drugs and I will not tolerate it during a session.

How do I know my safety is guaranteed?

Your well-being is very important to me, both physical and mental. I understand it can be intimidating, maybe even frightening to make an appointment with a Mistress for the first time. That is why I want to have a phone conversation before you book the session. (If you want to read other people's experience with me, read my testimonials section.) I only do things when they are negotiated and according to the BDSM values of Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) and Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK).

When there is an emergency during our session, I know what to do. There is always a colleague in the building to help if needed. When you are still conscious, I will ask is you agree that somebody else is helping. If you are unconscious, I will use my knowledge and experience to judge what to do. When a colleague has to help, your privacy will be protected at the best of our capability.

What do I have to call You?

I want you to call me by my title and name, so you call me Mistress or Mistress Victoria. Of course you may also call me Mistress Victoria DeVil, but during a session this is a bit too long and formal. You definitely will not make me happy with calling me just Victoria or using informal greetings like 'hey' and 'yo'. In fact, it can pretty much annoy me. Is this difficult for you, please tell me so we can talk about it.

Do You use a Safe Word?

A Safe Word is used by you to indicate that you want me to stop what I am doing because it is getting too intense for you. My Safe Word is 'Red'. if you can't talk, I will provide you with something to hold in your hand. When you drop this, I know you used the Safe Word. You may use the Safe Word three times, but be careful, after the third time I terminate the session.

You may always use the word 'Mercy' to let me know things get quite heavy for you. It is then up to me whether I want to stop or continue for a bit. I feel no obligation to stop what I am doing. Excessive use of this word will make me ignore it or even punish it.

Is that really You on You photos?

Yes, it is. All photos on my website are made by me or made for me. I really do not like to take photos off the internet and use them for my website. Furthermore, I don't like photos that are plastered smooth with Photoshop, I want to look as real as possible. You can also see how I really look during a session in my clips.

My Fetish is not on Your site, does this mean I can't book a session with You?

No. First make sure your Fetish is not on the page with my limits. If it's not on there, please contact me to discuss the possibilities.

Why haven't I gotten an answer to my email yet?

If it is not yet 7 days after our contact, I ask you to be patient. I receive a lot of emails and sometimes I am too busy to answer all my emails. Have 7 days past and you still have no answer? Than you may send me one message to ask if I have received it in good order.

May I take pictures and make recordings during the session?

No. I want to do this for you and if requested send it to you, but at all times I am the one who is recording anything of the session.

What happens when I have an orgasm by accident?

That depends on what you want. I want to continue the session if you want that too. If you don't want that, then it is fine to talk while having a drink (coffee, tea, soda) the remainder of the time. If you want to end the session and want to go, that is also an option. If you decide to leave early, there will be no refund.

May I write a reaction or a review about the session?

Of course, I would like that! I love to read reactions to a session. You can send me your reaction or review on this page. When your account is serious and sincere I will, if requested, publish it on my website.

I am handicapped. Can I book a session with You?

Yes, you can. I have a broad experience in this area, varying from severely hard of hearing or visually impaired to spasm. To let thing work out smoothly I work with the following rules. There has to be contact before a session regarding the kind of handicap. I have to prepare and consider in what way we can do the session. The front door of Studio Donna Fiera is quite small: broad wheelchair can not enter. If you are in a wheelchair you have to notify me upfront so I can reserve the right playroom. I can support you but I will not lift you. Studio Donna Fiera is not suited for severe handicaps, like paralysis of the lower body (or more).

What do I have to call You?
I want you to call me by my title and name, so you call me Mistress or Mistress Victoria. Of course you may also call me Mistress Victoria DeVil, but during a session this is a bit too long and formal. You definitely will not make me happy with calling me just Victoria or using informal greetings like 'hey' and 'yo'. In fact, it can pretty much annoy me. Is this difficult for you, please tell me so we can talk about it. Question.
Do You see this as only work or do You have fun in Your sessions?
I absolutely do not see this as only work. I do not assume the role of Dominant, this is who I am. In my private life I also am a Dominant and I am married to a slave with whom I have a 24/7 D/s relationship. BDSM is my life and my lifestyle and I am enjoying it intensely.
Is that really You on You photos?
Yes, it is. All photos on my website are made by me or made for me. I really do not like to take photos off the internet and use them for my website. Furthermore, I don't like photos that are plastered smooth with Photoshop, I want to look as real as possible. You can also see how I really look during a session in my clips.
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